“Splitting” In Borderline Personality Disorder: What You Should Know

“Splitting” In Borderline Personality Disorder: What You Should Know


NARRATOR:You’ve heard of Borderline Personality Disorder but have you heard of splitting? Here are some examples and what it means for those with BPD Splitting is a phenomenon in which a person often with Borderline Personality Disorder is where we see it will either see things as all good or all bad There’s no grey This most often happens with people So where this gets confusing is They may literally view someone as “This is the best Doctor I have ever had he is a LIFESAVER” There is no greater doctor But the First time the doctor disappoints them: “You are the worst Doctor Ever. I’m going to post a bad Yelp! review about you. You are a monster.” So you went from Pedestal to trash heap in a day. KITTLESTON: In a day
D: Versus “You are a great Doctor, however…” There’s no grey. So that tendency to split it can be about people, it can be about situations, in some ways it can even be about themselves. This is the tendency in Borderline Personality Disorder to not be able to view things Holistically. So the best example I can give you is how an infant experiences its mother early in life. or its caregiver if you will- When that baby wants its care giver, -lets call it mom just to make it simple when that baby wants mom and moms not there, thats bad mom. D- Scream scream scream, Mommy comes, mommy feeds baby- Good mommy. And those, that psychoanalytic theorists would argue, those are experienced as two separate people. As the child’s personality and psychology evolves that gets integrated into a whole person. Sometimes mommy is there when she needs to be, Some times shes not. But Mommy is Mommy. An d I love her. *Agree mumbles*
Okay, that’s an integrated whole. The idea of splitting can come from a couple of different places. If indeed a person with Borderline Personality did experience Truama earlier in life, the splitting may have been a defense. Let’s say they were abused by someone- There was a good safe version of that person, and then there was the dangerous, abusive version of that person Its really hard for a child to reconcile all that into one person. That tendency to split can then generalize. For the person with Borderline personality as having a dark mood and a light mood. Same thing. It is hard to integrate. The inability to integrate is where that splitting comes up. Splitting however is really confusing for the people around the individual. How could I have been such a great person this morning and now you think I am the devil and it is lunch time and the answer to that is simple. The are splitting. They almost view you as two different people and I can say to you as a clinician I have had clients that will say that you are the worst therapist in the world I hate you and I am going to quit therapy. And I have to calmly hold them, support them in essence almost like they are the crying baby. And say I understand you are upset. I was late or whatever their reason was to get upset at me. And hopefully we can see if we can integrate back to the not that I am the greatest therapist ever but simply that I am their therapist and we are working together. You dont want them to go back to that ? I dont need them to think I am the greatest.I just need them to see that I am a consistent presence in their life. Not all bad. Not all good. But the therapist. And then Do you tell them, hey, you just had an episode of Splitting? Yeah you can point that out. Wow Say

100 Replies to ““Splitting” In Borderline Personality Disorder: What You Should Know”

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  2. I always say that I need to write a book about 'What not to say to your Borderline boyfriend', but my oddities has allowed my boyfriend to simmer down and laugh with me. When he splits and he hates me, I'd say go ahead and hate me but when it's over I'll be here and back on the pedestal. Love you stax.

  3. I find it difficult to understand the splitting because as of right now I dont live with my fiance. I'm trying to move in so I can help more. Although she is needing alone time to gather her thoughts. I'm still here though.

  4. They put such darkness on BPD. I totally get like this w the people I love but everything is based on such extremes. I had a Dr tell me I couldn't possibly have becauae I'm too rational and "kind". He would give me examples of BPD patients and they were just the worst. Example her being late and now being the worst therapist ever. Come on, that's one person. I'm sure most of us would say nothing and go to our cars

  5. No, it's not something everyone experiences. People with BPD experience splitting very differently. It can be extreme hate and very distressing for the sufferer. Especially if it is someone close, it's like your whole world falls apart in that moment.

  6. splitting is the worst part of having BPD for me I just want to be able to love someone and know that one little thing won’t make me despise them 5 mins later. It’s so exhausting

  7. Like I had a friend who was encouraged to start running and found she could do well in 5k races. When I told her about a younger woman who won a race overall, ahead of the men as well, she was thrilled by the idea. But a few months later she had a hard 8k race in the heat and humidity, and she suddenly was extremely judgmental about this woman who did win over all the women again, and my friend claimed this woman as a college elite runner had no business competing in neighborhood races where she was guaranteed to win and take away recognition from other women runners who were not as talented. This narrative had been building over a few weeks in her mind about "fairness" and "good sportsmanship" I saw that enabled her to judge this woman and others as bad sports, WHILE in fact my friend herself was the one being a bad sport.
    It wasn't clear to me if it was important to challenge dishonest thinking, and myself I'd be extremely ashamed if I saw that sort of thinking in myself, so now I can see she was triggering my own beliefs of how a "good" person acts, my own splitting, and she was representing my "bad" side I would otherwise reject.
    I suppose Carl Jung's "psychological shadow" is itself a structure of splitting self, so we reject our "bad" side and project that onto others.
    My friend was projecting "bad" competitiveness onto an unbeatable rival perhaps as a way to claim her own competitiveness eventually.
    My reaction was projecting "bad" judgmentalness onto to my friend, so I was myself being judgmental of her, at least in my mind! And because I was taking her false attitude personally, and I wanted to tell her she was wrong, while knowing she couldn't hear that from me. I couldn't be a "good supportive friend" while I felt she was being dishonest.
    I see it is possible to side-step the black and white thinking by another, and just offer her validation for her frustrations, and maybe the false narratives fade away without challenging them. I see I fear this devaluation being directed at me, so I can't help take it personally when it is directed onto someone else. I suppose its not unlike when you hear racist generalizations and want to speak up, and yet know it won't do any good.

  8. Scary. I can relate to this 120%. Married to one of these einsteins. Close to blowing my brains out. Pls give advice to the victims of these people

  9. My sister does this all the time. It’s so predictable now. The instant she starts praising someone, I know it’s just a matter of time before she trashes them. What causes the change? They don’t get their way with the person.

  10. 4:03

    Jesus Christ dude, let her finish the sentence. She's trying to explain something and this guy decides to interrupt with his genius advice of "a-and grow up a little bit!". Your advice is completely useless here, I don't understand the need to interject like that.

  11. People that hold grudges seem to split. Someone has to be the bad guy & themselves being the good guy. Black and white thinking. I’m thinking my ex’s therapist isn’t well versed in personality disorders unless my ex doesn’t tell them what an extreme grudge holder she is with extreme emotional outbursts and mind fuckery.

  12. When I was in therapy my therapist treated me for issues I never had a problem with and made me comply with his idea of social conformity, that made me completely miserable as opposed to my condition before when I was happy with my place in life, but suffered chronic tiredness and depression as a result of fibromyalgia and not of my life conditions. With his treatment my condition and depression actually worsened immensely. I suffered a total burn out because he was forcing me to live a life that was not for me and to be extroverted and active above my innate capabilities. Now I’m fighting to get back to my normal state and to lessen the pain
    So, yeah, if the patient is happy with their situation and tells you they are okay with something believe it. Don’t think you know better because you don’t

  13. Maybe I have bpd not due to trauma but neglect by a drug addicted mom. She would be one person sober and another when she was high. Gotta call a therapist. I got diagnosed with bipolar when I was hospitalized as a teen but it never felt like it applied to me. This seems worse but it is what it is.

  14. Wow, excellent video! I just broke up with a woman whom I believe is BPD with MS and depression. The splitting makes total sense. Love you today, hate me this afternoon. Her rage outbursts was mind numbing. Calling me names. As the Dr. said, I had enough. The end started over a text I sent her saying "We need to talk.". I had received harassing phone calls from the boyfriend of my former NPD girlfriend which really angered me. When I sent the text, I did not think clearly on the wording. So, the woman I was 'seeing' texted me back in a rage saying how it pissed her off so bad first thing in the morning. Well, the texts between us escalated. I was already in a foul mood from the harassing phone calls. She added gas to the fire. The one that killed me was when she texted me cancelling out our Thanksgiving dinner plans, that through me over the edge.

  15. This makes me feel so much better.. splitting. Both of my parents narcissistic, but my mother..well, she wrote the book. And the fact that she WAS 2 different people to me, I didnt feel safe. I never knew which mom I was going to interact with..thank you for doing these videos, thank you

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  17. can having very different parents also be the source of splitting? my mom is the most loving person i know but my dad is the complete opposite. growing up he never showed me love, he was very emotionally abusive and sometimes physically. he also once insinuated that he wasn’t my father even though he knows well he is.

  18. I think this video may have just helped save a close personal friendship from imploding. I did something stupid, unwittingly… that severely impacted a friend. She reacted strongly and I was cowed by her response to my triggering action. I froze up, I didn't know how to react. I hope what I learned in this video is what I need to help restore the relationship. I have watched a bajillion videos on YouTube trying to figure out how to deal with situation. I think I finally found what I was seeking! Thank you!

  19. Great information! Dated someone with Borderline, didn’t know that he had it until he had a splitting episode and I was the bad one, according to him. Understanding Borderline, helps me move forward and wish him the best.

  20. What if one cannot afford therapy, what then?? I know I can't, and I have BPD. I am also a single mother trying to make ends meet because I know I have to go on for my child.

  21. Dr. Ramani talks about making progress with patients w/ BPD. I'm a bit confused b/c it has always been told to me that BPD is one of, if not the, most difficult condition to treat. I was also advised to run, not walk, away from such people b/c they very likely will never change. So, are y'all saying here that BPD can be treated with significant results with most patients?

  22. This video is really giving me a lot of insight into the experiences I had as a child growing up with a grandmother with undiagnosed BPD.

  23. I’m in love with a Borderline woman but I have to get out soon. Shes wonderful and terrible, she thinks it’s me. She wants me to go to therapy. The roller coaster of dealing with her is impossible. A beautiful woman so much fun. Then she will split and it can be anything that sets her off. One day I’m
    A hero one day the next a zero. I never know when the split will happen. Im on the defense a lot it’s wearing me down. I have empathy for her but she will not seek help. She’s defiant. Even narcissistic at times. Not evil or holds grudges but definitely no conscious and little empathy for my feelings.

  24. TRIGGER ALERT! "MEDCIRCLE" ONLY WANTS YOUR MONEY! DON'T BOTHER, IF YOU ARE REALLY SEEKING HELP! ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE SUFFERING FROM "SUICIDE IDEALIZATION!"? CALL A HOTLINE!!!!!!!!!!! DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME! WHAT A JOKE!

  25. Relgious people must be body and the world because everyone seems to see things as 100%good and 100%bad🤷

  26. i was diagnosed when i was 18. today i am 55. i never got any help. i've been learning since watching these videos. today i learned splitting. now i can see all these times in my life when i did this. i had no idea. i wonder if there is any point to getting help now. best case scenario i'll only be here 10 more years or so. i wonder how much different life would have been if i had gotten help all the way back then.

  27. Any UK suffers here? BPD isn’t treated at all where I live. Ive just been told to stop working and stay home. It’s been three years since my diagnosis and I feel a bit lost now

  28. Having dealt with people with BPD for decades, I would blanket advise just to cut your losses and run. They aren't evil, but they're not healthy for anyone or anything if they are not treated.

  29. I’m going through something in my life very similar and this advice has helped me not feel so alone! It’s very hard when no one listens to you.

  30. I have BPD and this is something that I work on consistently. It was very difficult at first and still is, but there is hope.

  31. i like your videos, but this sentimental music in the end is very very stigmatizing and degrading of the bpd struggle.

  32. thank you all i almost kill myself everyday and destroy my relationships with my family without thinking of myself i am acting this way.

  33. I do not like this Doctors demeanor! She seems extremely condescending and in my opinion she has a know it all attitude. I couldn't have her as my therapist because I would feel so bad for feeling the way I feel because she would tell me as if she knows exactly what my feelings are

  34. I think these two have got BPD wrong.
    There is way too much demonising of BPD and a very black and white and extreme view of BPD.
    BPD is much more complex than is being presented here.
    I think there are much better channels for BPD information.

  35. I have read your comments and my heart goes out to each one of you! I Care! I have know at least a couple people with BPD…One moment they love you the next they seem to hate you…they need you and don't want you to go…but the FEELINGS & EMOTIONS get Overwhelming and they get LOST IN THEIR EMOTIONS…BECAUSE THEY WERE NEVER REALLY ABLE TO EXPRESS THEM AT THE RIGHT TIME TO THE RIGHT PEOPLE…SO THEY HAD TO STUFF DOWN THEIR EMOTIONS!
    A SILENT BATTLE GOING OFF IN THEIR MIND➡ UNABLE TO RELEASE IT! BPD is from CHILDHOOD OR A BAD INCIDENT TRAMA OR YEARS OF BEING HURT WHETHER EMOTIONALLY MENTALLY PHYSICALLY or SEXUALLY EVEN BULLIED OR SPIRITUALLY ABUSED BY AN ATHORITY IN THE CHURCH..A CHILD OR TEEN HAVING TO BE SILENT AND JUST TAKE IT! SOMETIMES BPD IS CAUSED BY A WRONG WIRING IN THE BRAIN…THE AMYGDALA WHICH HOLDS MEMORY IS OVER SATURATED WITH TOO MANY NEGATIVE OR SAD FEELINGS MEMORIES AND IS CONSTANTLY BEING ACTIVATED BY MORE STRESS!
    SOME PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH SERITONIN TO PROVIDE PEACE AND CALM TO THE BODY FROM THE BRAIN…SSRI's HELP WITH THIS PROBLEM AND HELP WITH SERITONIN LOSS!
    SOME PEOPLE HAVE HEAD INJURY THAT CAUSES BPD…CONCUSSIONS OR HEAD INJURY FROM AN ACCIDENT OR FALL! SOME JUST HAVE NOT BEEN RAISED IN A LOVING HOME AND CAN NOT HELP WHAT THEY FEEL….BECAUSE THEY GOT SO MANY MIXED SIGNALS…BOTH LOVE AND HATE OF A PARENT OR SIBLINGS OR AN AUTHORITY FIGURE! IT DID NOT HELP THEM IN THEIR DEVELOPMENTAL STAGE SO NOW THEY HAVE TO REWIRE THEIR MINDS TO THINK DIFFERENTLY…TO ACCEPT OTHERS…TO TRY TO GET ALONG…TO UNDERSTAND WHAT PEOPLE MEAN! SOMEONE WITH BPD…USUALLY HAS HAD TRAMA OR ABUSE OR NEGLECT/ABANDONMENT ISSUES AND COMPARISON WITH OTHERS AND LIVED IN A DISFUNCTIONAL FAMILY OR HAD SOMEONE WHO COULD NOT COPE IN CHARGE OF THEM! IMAGINE HAVING TO WALK ON EGGSHELLS AROUND THOSE YOU LOVE OR YOU WOULD MAKE THEM ANGRY OR UPSET AND OFFEND THEM FOR "NO REASON"…BECAUSE THEY WERE HAVING A BAD DAY…WERE SLEEP DEPRIVED OVERWHELMED ANXIOUS WORRIED FEARFUL AND SIMEONE SET THEM OFF (PUSHED THEIR BUTTON).
    1. IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT
    2. THEY COULDN'T COPE
    3. THEY OVERREACTED
    4. THEY DID NOT DISPLAY SELF CONTROL! THEY DID NOT TAKE A TIME OUT! THEY DID NOT CALM DOWN (THEY SHOULD HAVE)
    5. THEY TOOK THE INCIDENT OUT ON YOU!
    6. THEY SHOULD HAVE APPOLOGIZED OR MADE AMENDS
    7. ALCOHOL ABUSE OR DRUG ABUSE MESSED UP THEIR PRIORITIES AND THEY WERE NOT THEMSELVES.
    8. THEY WERE ABUSED AND CONTINUED THE CYCLE OF ABUSE…THEY TRIED TO CONTROL THROUGH ANGER
    FIGHTING FUSSING GRIPING OR NAGGING OTHERS! THEY WERE NOT HAPPY…THEY MIGHT HAVE BEEN DEPRESSED AND ANGRY AT A SITUATION AND TOOK IT OUT ON YOU!
    NONE OF THIS WAS RIGHT OR CALLED FOR…CHILDREN SHOULD BE LOVED CARED FOR PROTECTED ENCOURAGED AND APPRECIATED APPROVED OF ACCEPTED AND ACKNOWLEDGED FOR THE WONDERFUL ONES THEY ARE! IF YOU WERE NOT GIVEN THIS COMFORT OR TAUGHT THE RIGHT THINGS YOU MAY HAVE ONLY EXISTED OR BARELY SURVIVED TILL YOU COULD GET OUT AWAY FROM HOME!
    SOME MAY HAVE ENCOUNTERED A TRAMATIC EVENT OR CRIME TO BRING ON BPD (BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER) A BAD FALL OR CONCUSSION OR TRAMATIC BRAIN INJURY CAN ALSO CAUSE BPD!
    WHAT MANY HAVE DONE IS SHUT DOWN THEIR FEELINGS…STUFFED THEIR FEELINGS OR HAD TO NOT REACT AT ALL TO PREVENT WORSE THINGS FROM HAPPENING TO THEM! THEY CARRIED BLAME SHAME CONDEMNING WORDS AND SPEECHES IN THEIR HEAD, THEY MIGHT HAVE BEEN BULLIED REDICULED OR CRITICISED OFTEN…OR COMPARED TO OTHERS AND LOST THEIR OWN IDENTITY! THEY MIGHT HAVE HAD TO TIP TOE AROUND FAMILY MEMBERS OR PARENTS TO NOT GET IN TROUBLE! IT TAKES A TOIL ON A PERSON'S SOUL MIND HEART BODY FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS TRUST AND CONFIDENCE…THEY TEND TO OVER ANALYSE THEMSELVES AND LIVE IN BLAME ACCUSATIONS AND WHAT THEY DID WRONG…WHICH LEADS TO SHAME REGRET DISAPPOINTMENT AND THEM BEATING UP ON THEMSELVES AFTER SOMEONE HURT THEM…DOUBLE PUNISHMENT!
    BUT GOD NEVER WANTED YOU TO CARRY THIS! OTHERS ACTIONS SHOULD BE CONTROLLED BY THEM NOT YOU…YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR GETTING SOMEONE UPSET OR ANGRY!
    THAT IS TRANSFERANCE OF BLAME…PEOPLE SHOULD WORK THINGS OUT! THEY SHOULD APOLOGIZE MAKE AMENDS REPAIR RELATIONSHIPS…FORGIVE!
    BUT SOME CAN NOT BECAUSE THEY CARRY TOO MUCH HURT TOO MUCH ANGER TOO MUCH UNFORGIVENESS…..ANGER HURT UNFORGIVENESS PLUGS UP THE HEART AND DOESN'T ALLOW THE PERSON TO HANDLE EMOTIONAL SITUATIONS WELL! THEIR MIND ONLY SEES AND REMEMBERS ALL THE HURT NOT THE OTHER PERSONS NEEDS OR SEES THE OTHER PERSONS HURT!
    WHAT SOLVES THIS?
    GIVING ALL YOUR OVERWHELMING OR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS OR HURTS OVER TO JESUS TO TAKE OFF YOU IMMEDIATELY! ALSO GIVE HIM ALL YOUR SOUL WOUNDS DAILY…SOUL WOUNDS ARE HURTS OF THE MIND AND HEART AND BAD MEMORIES OF THE PAST THAT YOU STILL REMEMBER TODAY! YOU WERE NEVER MEANT TO CARRY THESE!
    SOUL WOUND HEALING FREES YOUR HEART AND MIND! SO DOES GETTING FRUSTATION AND HURT AND ANGER OF YOU! ANGER CAN HURT OTHERS AND MAKE YOU FEEL BAD OR EVEN LEAD TO DEPRESSION! SO LET GO OF THE ANGER! RELEASE IT ALL TO JESUS! NEXT FORGIVE THEM…IT WAS A BAD DAY FOR THEM OR THEY WERE UPSET OR HURT BY SOME ELSE OR IT WAS A MISUNDERSTANDING! THEY REALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DO THAT TO YOU UNLESS THE WERE DOING RETALIATION!
    FORGIVE BLESS SPEAK PEACE AND LOVE OVER OTHERS! FORGIVE THEM FOR A BETTER LIFE! GOD WANTS TO HEAL YOU AND THEM AND IT BEGINS WITH FORGIVENESS! FORGIVENESS FREES YOU FROM THE PERSON AND SITUATIONS. ASK FOR SOUL WOUND HEALING FOR BOTH OF YOU FROM JESUS AND HEALING OF RELATIONSHIP!
    JESUS WANTS YOU TO BE GOD'S CHILD SO ASK FOR JESUS SALVATION AND MAKE JESUS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR TODAY!
    ASK FORGIVENESS OF ALL SIN AND TURN AWAY FROM SIN AND CHOOSE TO FORGIVE OTHERS (EVERYONE). GOD WANTS YOU TO BE HIS CHILD TODAY….GET SAVED! JESUS LOVES ADORES APPRECIATES ACCEPTS AND APPROVES OF YOU! JESUS DOES NOT BLAME SHAME REDICULE CRITICIZE COMPARE OR BREAK DOWN A PERSON SELF WORTH OR SELF ESTEEM! GOD BUILDS PEOPLE UP AND ENCOURAGES THEM ALWAYS!
    BLESSINGS OVER YOU
    YOU ARE LOVED! 💖
    YOU ARE PRECIOUS AND WANTED AND YOU MATTER! 😊

  36. A lot of people are just here to comment negative shit. Quite obvious they didn’t actually listen and don’t intend to.

  37. Laughing and cracking jokes about serious mental health issues is disturbing…..Looks like he's got a chip on his shoulder, LOL….Would you tell anyone else with brain trauma to "Grow up a little"? Nope. Then comparing BPD to your cat? I'm sure he'd say "get over it" also….BPD sufferers are most often victims of abuse (past and present….they can't just get over it or grow out of it easily…..it's more complex then just spilitting…….Extremely offensive, and unprofessional, really ignorant, looks like he enjoys it as well…This is an issue with the part of the brain that is overactive (amygdala)…and another that is under active(Prefrontal cortex….. he finds it funny….not at our expense….fn idiot. If you don't have this disorder, then who are you to judge? Especially when u lack compassion…and are certainly not qualified to be a mental health professional on youtube. LOL

  38. I feel as though I split, something will happen between my old friend and I and I would get really angry for something I know is unreasonable. But the thing is, I refuse to yell at someone so I ignore them, block them out so I don’t get angry- I want allowed to get angry at home and being angry at a bully only brought more down on me so I resisted it- then come back when that anger is gone and go back to normal.

  39. He is comparing us to cats so people that doesn't have BPD can get a clue on what we go thru when we are solitting!!! So they can understand a little better.

  40. I have BPD and I have to tell my husband a lot that it is not his job to make me feel better or to make me happy. It is not his fault if I am unhappy.

  41. I dont split between good person – bad person. I split between "They're on my side and care." and "They think I'm an awful person and don't care… and hope for the worst."

  42. I split after too much bullshit I split from everyone in the usa it's all so pasay here no one remembers anyone to.many people and hardly any glue of friendships unless something g is being g sold or sex or any dopaminerealease theme

  43. Sounds a lot like Amy from amys baking company… They worshipped Gordon ramsay but when he started to critique her food, she went bonkers

    Or any person just consumed by some type of ideology. Amusing the comparison to babies is made here in this video

  44. I have never had a long term job due to this. I've been called the best employee, in the beginning, do my best try everything I can to do well then it always ends in me quitting due to me being unable to work there any more because my manager or the environment is ruined for me this realization scares me because I don't think I can ever have a fulfilling and secure career.

  45. What is with this guy and animal. The dr. Is talking about people disorders and he is trying to relate the disorders to animals! Stupid.

  46. im glad you are bringing awareness to an illness i am personally suffering from, but please never let this guy interview anyone ever again

  47. Why is it raining in close-ups of her, but on pans the sun is shining? Is this to give us a visual we can relate to?

  48. Is it possible to have constant splitting and it be something else? My therapist says I don’t have BPD because I have ‘’two much insight’’. Like I’m now aware of what splitting is (because she pointed it out & explained it to me). I’m aware that I split on pretty much on everyone, even myself & even aware sometimes when I’m doing it but I still can’t stop it or feel differently. I can’t really see anyone as anything other than all good or all bad no matter how hard I try to tell myself they’re are both good & bad. Should I seek a second opinion or something? She said something else that really rubbed me the wrong way & now I think I’m splitting on her too lol. Like I’m not sure I trust her anymore. 😕

  49. Hey, MedCircle. How about hiring someone else to conduct interviews and not this generic white guy with no empathy for people with mental health issues. I've been watching all the videos with him and Dr. Ramani and this guy is literally the worst. Unprofessional and the way he keeps using animals when trying to talk about similarities in BPD; Honestly, I'm disgusted. It's sad I can't find this important information without this daft pillock opening his trap.

  50. For the people who are thinking Kyle is being unprofessional, it is because his type of interviewing isn't professional to begin with. He isn't going off a script and 'THATS IT', you'd be doing the exact same. He isn't some worldknown interviewer. He started this beautiful series with a wonderful intention in his heart to help us as well as himself. We compare things all the time when we converse with people. He is conversing and trying to understand about something he isn't professionally studying.

  51. Okay but what if you’re “splitting” because you’re dealing with a narcissist that is love bombing then devaluing you…? 🙃

  52. I'm so not impressed that the videos with the most hate are the ones who tell BPD people that they need to take responsibility for their emotions somehow, in every channel, not only this one.

    Yes, guys, GROW UP. Learm how to experience emotions and judge people like adults do.

  53. If you're that angry over what he said YOU NEED TO GO TO DBT SESSIONS HUNNY. It's not that serious 😘💁🏿‍♂️💅🏿

  54. I'm here to understand why my BPD mother treated me so badly. So many of the comments here are insanely triggering, however. The interviewer is not a villain. He's just a person who is trying his best, and maybe he's not the best, but he's also not the focal point of the video. Why focus on him at all? Why nitpick and complain about such inconsequential things? This man did nothing but try to help explain this disorder. He's a good guy who doesn't deserve to be criticized so much.

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